Last week we celebrated Valentine’s Day. Ladies around the country received roses, lilies, carnations and other flowers. Chocolates, stuffed animals and maybe even jewelry were gifted and received.
For many, it was a beautiful day.
But I can’t help but worry about our society’s view on love, relationships, and marriage.
Before I continue, I must confess: I am watching The Bachelor as I type up this post.
I have watched the series off and on. Usually, I wait until later in a season to start watching–after the riffraff is weeded out a bit. This season, though, I’ve tried to watch from the beginning and am using Hulu to play catch up.
This season’s bachelor, Sean, is a professing Christian. Last season, he was a bachelor on The Bachelorette. Emily chose otherwise (bad choice, IMHO) and he has embarked on another search for love. I hope the best for him because I know how awesome it is to be married to my best friend.
So many people are looking for the perfect recipe that will lead them to their forever love. We read books, scour blogs, rip through magazines, and listen to advice from well-meaning people.
Bottom line: There is no one-size-fits-all recipe for finding the love of our lives. Some of us find our forever love online, at a wedding, in kindergarten, during college, at the workplace, or anywhere else. I love asking the question, “How did you two meet?”
We even see a variety of meetings between husband and wife in the Bible. I wish I could count the ways men and women became wed in the Bible.
Let’s start at the top: Adam and Eve. I mean, God created Adam’s wife. Literally. As Isaac was mourning the death of his beloved mother, his slave went out and found Rebekah (who was beautiful and a virgin) to marry Isaac. David married a woman with whom he had committed adultery. Queen Esther was forced into a harem from which King Xerxes chose his bride.
I don’t know about you, but not one of these methods of finding forever is similar to another.
That must be why Jesus never told us exactly how to find that forever love. Instead, He spoke about mercy, forgiveness, money, heaven, hell, and a myriad of other things.
Even though the thought of finding that forever love can be consuming, we must focus on our love for Christ.
Mark 12.30 says, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your mind, with all your soul and with all your strength.”
For some, this is a cliché verse, but at its root is truth. I mean, it is the Bible after all and, furthermore, these are Jesus’ words!
Before I leave you until the next post, I feel it’s important to point out one more thing. The next verse in Mark is quite poignant. Verse 31 says, “…you should love your neighbor as yourself….”
Lord, help me to love those around me as I love myself–maybe even better since I fail at the “loving me” part so often. I want to seek You first and help those around me to keep you as their primary focus, even when those around them seem to be in happy relationships. Help me to always love You well. In Your name I pray continually…